Make Do Woman

21 Aug

I found this at Be Silent’s and I LOVED it!!!

When I was preparing to get married, I started getting all sorts of advice especially at bridal showers and things like that from family and friends. But one of the most interesting ‘lessons’ came from a woman I met for the first time, just a few weeks before the big day.

She said, Honey, whatever you do, don’t ever let yourself become a “make-do woman”, I had no idea what she meant, but, of course, she was about to explain.

She continued, ‘men’ don’t deny themselves anything. Whatever they want to buy, they buy. Whatever they want to do, they do. Meanwhile, there is the wife, making do with her hair not being done, gaining weight not taking care of our health, her clothes from yesteryear, her nails in need, never had a pedicure, scraping the bottom of her tube of lipstick! Oh, I could go on and on with how ‘ we’ make do.

And why? Because the car needs fixing, this bill is behind, we have to use our time to take care of this, or take care of that; we’re saving for this, working, cooking, cleaning, raising, etc. She warned me to never become a make-do woman, because she says if you start, it is hard to stop and one could easily find themselves making-do for the rest of their lives.

I vowed it would never happen to me. I didn’t think much more of the conversation until one day, I began to take notice, she was right.

Men are a lot better at being good to themselves. Some call it being selfish, there has to be another word for it. Tell me if you know.

Whatever you call it. It does have its place. When they want to play ball, or golf, or fish, they go! When they want to buy clothes, or equipment, or video games, or whatever their ‘thing’ is, they buy! Have you ever tried to stop one? Has anyone ever been able to stop one? Let me know! When I look around, I see a whole heap of make-do women, married or not, with or without children, they are all over the place!

I have decided that I am going to make my best effort to become a ‘make-time’ woman! I will make the time to do what I need to do to be good to myself, whether that’s a trip to the salon, or the gym or the mall. This time I’m going to take a lesson from the guys!

All right ladies, single and married… Let’s NOT be ‘MAKE-DO’ Women! Let’s LOVE OURSELVES and ENCOURAGE each other! Pass it on! It’s something we could all appreciate

It is time for a change , I am not saying men shouldn’t take time for themselves, I am saying we are stupid for not taking more time for ourselves !!!

Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today!


Posted by on August 21, 2011 in Life


4 responses to “Make Do Woman

  1. gid

    August 23, 2011 at 12:11 pm

    this here be tight! love it!

    • therisingpage

      August 23, 2011 at 3:56 pm

      hahah, sounds like something you would write.

  2. petesmama

    August 23, 2011 at 3:20 pm

    Eh. This is the bare and painful truth. And if you don’t stop yourself and create some kind of balance you end up resenting the man for his ability to do his thing guiltlessly!

    I’m off to the salon for a manicure I don’t need!

    • therisingpage

      August 23, 2011 at 3:58 pm

      You go girl!

      I’m thinking of a mani & Pedi, myself – This weekend, it’s on!


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